Why is it that pride and shame go together? Is their some mystical connection? I think not. Shame is the emotional condition experienced by a person who made and recognized a wrongful or poor act and sees it as a reflection of what they are.
As children, we experienced shame. Our shame usually involved life events such as elementary school toileting accidents, disappointing others, failing tests, not being faithful to others in relationships, etc. Some of these events of shame can be related to our abilities, but others come from pride. Think about pride and shame?
When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lowly is wisdom. (Proverbs 11:2)
Shame comes to the proud, because they are destined to make wrong actions and decisions. They are destined because they are blinded to truth which would enable them to make right decisions. What blinds them from truth is pride.
Pride causes people to downplay the help and wisdom of others. It leads them to trust in their inflated ability instead of recognizing the abilities of others. Pride blinds because it is selfish. It wants to be right and to take complete credit for success. Because of their pride, these people are destined to experience shame. What is sad is that more than likely, they will blame their shameful condition on the inabilities of others and not recognize that their plight was of their own making.
To keep this from happening to you, heed to the wisdom of the scriptures. Seek advice from those who demonstrate wisdom and humility. Through prayer, seek guidance from God. And finally, strive to make right decisions and not just be right. When right decisions are made, praise the wisdom and efforts of those involved who enabled you to make the right decision.